On our Monday’s class activity, I first took the avoidance, and then I used collaborating to handle the conflict.
I took the avoidance when class was in completely mess, after Professor announced the situation about we had to come up our own ideas to treat our grade, people were yelling to each other, but the fact was the ideas going to be passed only if we all vote “yes” at the end of the class period, which I thought was almost impossible, it was extremely hard to make the decision when a guy yelled at me : “ do you want curve or do you want to drop the lowest grade.” I chose avoidance, withdrawal from the chaos, thought there was no chance to win.
I used collaborating when there finally came up a leader, which gave us a surprised option, guess what! We can have both--- the curve and the drop of the lowest grade. He calmed people down, and wrote options on the board to let everyone to choose from these options, and kept asking if everyone agreed. I turned to collaborate; there was a chance, at least.
For the future decision making I would use accommodation, which seeing issue as more important to others than self, it would lead to a more desirable result.
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First off, no one should be yelling at you in class, because you disagree with them. But if they do, yell back, and stand up for yourself!
However, I see you chose avoidance. Personally, I'm not one to stay quiet, and let people decide for me, but in this situation, there weren't many options.
I disagree with you on the accommodation method. Keep in mind, everyone is looking out for their own best interest, not yours, therefore, you should keep yourself and your grade in mind. After all, we did all have the same goal, and a lot of people had similar ideas as is, so I don't think you should compromise your opinions.
Hopefully everyone will do really well on the next exam, and we'll forget this chaotic experiment ever happened, even though we saw every one's personality.
I was the same way. And didn't get what I wanted because of the the time limit and figured that was better than nothing. I stay quiet too because I am not oging to look like a controlling fool on a power trip.
Many people took the avoidance approach at first which led a group of students in front of the class to fight and argue. You were not the only one that got screamed at. A young lady screamed at me too. After awhile, I felt hopeless because the class could not come up with a decision. During the last five minutes, I took the avoidance approach and started to put my head down because the decision was not made.
I've noticed that you're not the only one who first took the avoidance method and then tried collaborating. It seems smart to not add fuel to the fire when others are so aggressive and act so immature. Just like you, I was really surprised how aggressive some people were. To be honest though, I can't blame our fellow students for being confused or pushy. We were so disorganized and never had been put into this position before. I think if we made it clear in the beginning that we are to act collectively and put all our personal agendas to the side, this might not have came down to the wire. I was also surprised we were able to have all our requests accepted. I guess I can't complain about that!
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